Merriam- Webster defines "real" with these words
actually existing or happening : not imaginary
: not fake, false, or artificial
: important and deserving to be regarded or treated in a serious way
I'm challenging myself to be more real and it has not been as easy as it might sound.
Does this mean when I'm having a bad day I don't pretend to be doing wonderful?
When I feel like being alone, does this mean I go home and sit on my couch and watch football vs, being social?
Does this mean when someone asks me how I'm doing, I tell them the truth?
I read of many colleagues that are complete introverts and guess what? I may be the biggest introver of us all. But what's funny is that I'm in a customer service business. My job all day long is to take care of people and things all around me. I probably answer close to 100 questions a day and I don't even have kids. :). Well, none the I have raised.
I've been working at giving people my undivided attention when they are speaking to me or asking me a question but I struggle. What do I say to those people that purposely monopolize my time? Or are they just crying out for someone to listen? What do I say to people that are truly trying to know the "real" me but I've got a bajillion other things going on? What do I say when I just want to be alone?
How real should one be? How real do you want someone to be? I often hate asking people how they are doing unless I truly have time to listen to them. I want to genuinely care how that person is doing if I ask them a question like that. But I'm not sure other people really want to know how I'm doing, so why do they ask?
How are you real with people? Colleagues? Family? Friends? Do you have tips on ways to be more real?
My problem may not be so much about being "real" as much as it is about exposing my vulnerability the more real I am. Sound familiar?
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