40 and SINGLE

I wonder what her deal is?

He's not totally ugly, he must ave "issues"

I bet she's insecure - guys don't like insecure

When you walk by, do you think people are whispering these words about you? Or thinking them in their head as you show up for another football game, swim meet or Christmas party alone?.  

News Flash:   Most people are so stuck on themselves they don't have the energy to worry about you and your relationship status...and if they are talking about YOUR relationship status, 8 times out of 10 they're using your situation to deflect conversation from their own situation.  

I've been listening to a lot of Elevation Music and their album "There is a Cloud"    POWERFUL!   I don't want to spoil it for you but it's life changing.  

For just 6:41 minutes list to "Do it Again" or go to iTunes and listen to the sample.

As I listen to this,  I am reminded....He has never failed me yet!    He's not failed you either and He never will.   You may wonder why he's left you single for _  days, weeks, months, years, decades (fill in the blank). Why he found love again so quickly or why she is already remarried.  For me...it'll be 10 years in December since my divorce was final.   TEN years....that's twice as long as I was married.   He's already remarried and has two children.   But you know what I cling to?  His promise that He will move mountains and that He will make a way when there is no way because He is faithful!      I am still in His hands just as much as I was the day my ex-husband filed for divorce, the very day before I was supposed to get on a plane for Afghanistan.  He's the same God...and He's still faithful.     He has NEVER failed me....not even once.

That doesn't mean there are days that I'm not lonely and I don't throw a pity party for myself because I don't have someone to snuggle up to as I fall asleep.   It means that He knows my heart.  He knows what my heart can and can't handle.   We can all find companionship.  There are plenty of guys and gals out there just looking for a good time - a fun night, weekend, week, month, season. But my Jesus knows my heart longs for so much more or nothing at all.

Friends - don't settle.   You deserve to be treated as the kings and queens, princes and princesses that you are.   Not a one night stand.  Not a fling.  You deserve the royal treatment, as if you were the only person in the room as your partner in life walks in, as every other face is blurred (like my best friend Becca can do with just a turn of a camera lens) by the beauty of the two of you.   Something only Jesus can do.

Are you trusting Him?.   Are you asking Him for wisdom and strength to overcome the temptations all around you?  Do you believe you are worth it? Worth being treated better than you have ever been treated before?  

Tonight - won't you rest in His promise?   He's never failed you yet. Even when it felt like He had.  For me...when I looked back over that fateful day under calmer circumstances I realized He has walking every step with me...and when the weight of the circumstance was more than I could bear Jesus steered that car down the mountain for me. What was it for you?  What did He do for you when you couldn't do it on your own?    Remember, it was Jesus carrying you through, nothing and no one else.   He's never failed you yet!   And He never will.

I struggled/wrestled with God  for a week about writing this post.  Why?   Because I didn't think I was qualified to write this post.   But as I've read many comments from men and women who Are struggling with their singleness, I was awakened to the thought that no one is qualified, we just have to be willing to let Jesus speak through us.   So...I'm doing my best to listen to His still small voice and share what I'm learning.   It may mean something to you, it may mean nothing but I hope it gives you even just a glimmer of hope.   God bless you sweet friends.   He is more than enough!